i-love-balsam: 2013

Sunday, 22 September 2013

Sweet Love Quotes

No, we're not talking about a few scraps of paper with dead president's pictures on them to 'buy' passion; this is a 'higher' purpose topic. We're going to use some pieces of paper to incite and invite a bit of passion and romance in your life in only 5 days.

As a successful life coach I'm going to call myself an 'expert' on this one and call your attention to some startling statistics: 67% of first marriages end in divorce over a 40 year period. Half of these divorces happen in the first 7 years. That means that many of these marriages stood a chance if they could have managed to keep their love alive. You can't plant a garden and come back in three months expecting a full and bountiful crop so don't do the same to your marriage. Invest a few scraps of paper in a more passionate relationship.

Let's start with 5 colorful scraps of paper, torn or cut into small greeting card or gift card sizes. Using your best handwriting copy a quote below onto the paper (or type into a blank document on your computer to print, cut and paste later).

Here are some great sweet love quotes and a couple of excerpts from poems:

A hundred hearts would be too few to carry all my love for you. Unknown
Grow old with me! The best is yet to be. Robert Browning
Let your Love be like the misty rain, coming softly, but flooding the river. Madagascan Proverb
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways, I love thee to the depth and breadth and height, My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight, For the ends of Being and ideal Grace. William Butler Yeats
Come live with me and be my love, and we will some new pleasures prove, of golden sands, and crystal beaches, with silken lines and silver hooks... John Dunne

Once you've created the cards now it's time to get 'sneaky' and hide them in and around where your partner will find them.

Suggestions: sneak one into their wallet or purse, place one under their pillow, add one to their lunch bag, put one under the toothpaste or medicine cabinet or on the visor of their car, etc. Don't hide them so well that they won't find them but try to get the cumulative effect of a 'daily discovery'.

Love Quotation

Short Love Story

Le voyage - A short love story

The seas have calmed down after a stormy night. The waves have bid the sand back ashore. The sun has risen without any struggle; the fear of the unknown has walked past the dawn.

She walks slowly with her hair swiftly swaying with the cool cherry filled scent breeze marking the start of summer. She feels as light as a ball of cotton dancing into the midst of wilderness. A voice inside her heart is leading her to the same spot by the beach where she thought she would never set her feet again; but today is the day, she knows it. She believes she's ready, ready to face the past that slammed the door of a starry future, a future she thought was the realization of her dream from a not so distant present.

She stops where two gigantic beach stones are firmly set. She closes her eyes just as when the sun starts to rush below a layer of clouds signaling the nearing twilight.

"Find me if you can!" Those were the last words she heard from Brei, the only man whom she ever loved. They were high school sweethearts. Brei was the only man she thought could make funny faces but still looked so dashingly handsome. There were days he would mimic what he called, a sick monkey after eating loads of bananas, a dehydrated fish, a starving crocodile.....and the list goes on.

It was also the beginning of summer. It was their first summer break on their first year in a university. They were both taking up Political Science; a course they believed was the best to prepare them for a Law degree. They both wanted to become lawyers after their respective fathers. She and Brei were full of dreams, prepared to defy what could the world wrongly delivers to them.

The sun was just about to set when she and Brei decided to go by the beach after a short exchange of stories they have recently read. They were running and laughing, chasing each other as they walked toward the beach until they reached the site where the two distinct rocks rest. The water was high that day, the waves were restless, but the two young lovers didn't mind what was going on around them. They just wanted to enjoy the priceless beauty of the world going by.

The day seemed endless. The angels in heaven could hear their laughter and were enticed to play as well. It was Brei's turn to hide. She closed her eyes and started counting," one two, three, hide quick for the goddess will turn you to stone once she catches you amiss!"

"Brei....yahoo! I'm coming! Her voice started to tremble after a few minutes of desperation for not being able to find Brei. Few minutes became an hour... and more hours... Playful shouts had become screams until the screams became sobs, sobs that then became a complete silence. She could not remember how she got back to her parents' house and the rest. She heard screams of deep pain, sobs rooted from the heart, but she could not tell where they were coming from, Brei was gone, and she never saw him again. Her heart was looking for answers, but her questions remained unanswered and got washed away by the furious waves.

She knows deep in her heart that today is the time to let go. Let the pain from the past be cast away; to move on to a place she believes could make her whole again, to a place where in time she may see Brei again; to a place where she could play with the angels who played with her and Brei on that fateful day. A place where there's no room for sorrow.

Brei is standing by the shore, flowers on his hand. "I love you, goodbye and till we meet again..."

It's been a year since his beloved was washed away with the rushing torrent of waves. They were playing hide and seek and he hid hastily behind a dilapidated hut near the beach; he didn't realise that his ladylove would go and search for him behind the "couple rocks", the two rocks firmly seated on the deeper part of the sea. He thought he had been hiding so long that he emerged himself only to find out that there's no one searching for him anymore. Everything started like a dream but ended a nightmare. She's gone, gone forever, gone with the waves on that unforgettable day.

Brei throws the flowers with the hope that she will get them through the angels that played with them on that day. "Goodbye my love...I love you forever and beyond..." Brei turns his back and starts to walk by the beach towards his home. He knows he has to go on, to follow "their dreams," to walk the road for a journey, the journey that he now has to finish on his own.

Love Phrases

There are many ways to interpret all of the love phrases that have recently come about or been there for years. To explain to a person how they should view one is almost unfair. There may not be a "right" or "wrong" way to look at any of the thousands of wonderful little expressions put together with words to express how a person feels at the time or how one may have another feeling at a different time. These wondrous quotes of a feeling called love phrases can mean the world and sum up everything for the emotions felt at any given time or place. Or may mean absolutely nothing at another time or even bring about a negative feeling when the emotions are not in a good place for loving feelings.

Some may feel that every expression of love or the little heart felt love phrases are perfect and all mean the world to them, with all in their world being or feeling great and wonderful. While one could toss out something a simple as "love hurts" and they would totally disagree because they feel that their love is wonderful there is nothing about a good love that should EVER hurt. To them this may be true; however someone in an abusive relationship will say that love does hurt and another just in the midst of a break-up or one who has just lost someone very close may also agree. This said; love phrases mean what they mean to any person at any time and feeling any emotion be it positive or negative. It is the interpretation of love phrases that make them what they are and it is not what a person is told that they are or what they should mean to them. Make your own mind up and then believe and live it to the fullest.

Here is another one of these love phrases just as an example; "If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they are always yours. And if they don't, they never were." Look at that for a minute or two and maybe even reread it a couple of times. The first thought here is how beautiful the outcome of this little love phrase may be for giving a person in your life the freedom from you to just walk away and then come back if they really decide that being with you is what they will choose forever. Sounds pretty nice and that is agreed however; if it is looked at another couple of ways it might not be just a beautiful.

Love needs to be shared to be fulfilled by any two people and if one needs to be "let go" they were never sure in the first place and needed to see if there was anything better out there and then came to the conclusion that you are the best they can do and decided to come back. The other part of this is that they were let go and upon arriving back will stay forever. How could this be known? It may mean that this time they did not find anything better and may still continue to look. In these love phrases and so many others it is best to reflect on them in the most positive fashion so that you may then apply them to a situation and that it may help with or allow an explanation. In any situation the love phrases worked for the people who came up with them in the first place and might not match your situation, if this seems the case come up with you own or accept whatever meaning that follows what someone else said.

Secret Love

Love Pictures

Falling in love is very beautiful thing and, you need to capture every moment and save it. You can do exactly these using pictures of love. Pictures of love are shots taken to ensure that you savor the moments and keep a piece of memory that will ensure that you preserve all the best times in your life. Pictures of love are very personal and they need to be captured in a way that the emotion will flow or reflect. When you get married, you take many pictures of love. It is a moment that is worth every film. This is a time where joy abounds and I cannot imagine life without pictures. You do not have to be married to share such experiences. Take pictures when you go out with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It really does not matter the venue you are at. You will certainly treasure them for a long time. If you want to get inspired by such pictures, it will be very helpful to go online and see some of the best collections of pictures. You do not have to be the world's best photographer to tell a tale of love. A couple which is in love will always glow and make the picture worthwhile. Therefore, this is the main purpose of such photos.

They can also prove to be very sentimental and, often times reminding us of different people and places with overwhelming nostalgia. However, when you have great pictures with a partner who you are separated to, they can become a great source of sorrow and disappointment. However, most pictures will inspires us and remind us of good times. Therefore, I can not overemphasize on importance of the pictures. You know what they say; a picture will speak a thousand words. There is something very artistic about them that will only require your silent stare and the love story behind it will be something beautiful and inspiring. The next time you plan to spend time with your loved one, it is wise that you plan for a photo opportunity. Pictures are the greatest assets that we have and, their value surpasses all the sentiments we can ever have. It is usually helpful for people to give the camera to somebody else so that they can devote their emotions to each other as the moment is captured.

Pictures will have a way of preserving time and, it will be helpful to have a professional do it for you. Most holiday spots or recreational facilities have cameramen ready to do the job for you. Taking your own pictures is great but, you want a third party to do it so that you can draw your emotions to your moment. There is so much to talk about and, I think that all photos taken are about love and community. When friends decide to come together, they want to have something to remind them of their unity. Pictures play this and more roles in society. Therefore, if you wish to take your own photos, invest in good quality and, your moments will have the same quality as the love you share.

Love Girls

Why guys love girls?

Girls are one of the best things in life --- almost every guy will admit this fact. Guys are into girls --- including those who say they're not into girls. They can lie about that, I swear. However, even though guys are, naturally, into girls, they still have certain preferences when it comes to someone they will actually like. You need to understand the concept that men, like women, have standards as well. And most of the time, they rely to the signals that you send them before the green light flashes and it's their cue to finally approach you. It's actually never that hard to attract a guy. To make it easier for you, here are the seven reasons why girls love guys --- and finally know the things he totally loves about you:

Because you're sweet and lovable. Hey, that's what girls are made of! When a guy thinks about a girl he particularly likes, he instantly feels good. Most often than not, it is followed by a feeling of misery when a guy realizes he can't be with her (but that's a topic for another time). All in all, it's always great if you show your girly side --- men just find that very hard to resist.
Because you always look and smell good. We all know we girls love to prep up and retouch and all that stuff --- and it can have a lot advantages too. Of course, it's always great to just be simple and carefree but it won't hurt if you try to spray a bit of cologne and put color in your cheeks sometimes, too.
Because you get happy over little things. One of the best things about being a girl is that we have a soft heart. Most of us, that is. And guys just find this completely adorable. When you get happy over a rainbow or because of a cute puppy, guys just have an instant urge to give you a big warm hug.
Because you're simple and down-to-earth. Guys always have issues with women who have has a tendency to be high maintenance. You won't go out to dinner if it's not in an expensive restaurant or if you're having a bad hair day --- come on, it's not the end of the world. Guys would appreciate it if you take it easy.
Because you're confident. You know how to carry yourself well and is not scared to show who you really are. Being confident immediately makes you more beautiful and sexier. You'd rather tell him about your opinions and listen to his as well, instead of acting dumb and stupid (which some girls would think cute). Not.
Because you show that you can take care of yourself. Independence is another instant turn on to men --- sure, you're cute and adorable and all that but that doesn't mean you need someone to babysit you as well. Show that you can take care of yourself and he'll be more inspired to take care of you.
Because you're cute and don't pretend to be someone else. Being your absolute true normal self is always a great way to attract a man. It means you don't try too hard to impress him and you're actually giving him the option to like you for being you. And nothing else can be more beautiful than that.

So why does guy's love girl's? Pretty simple isn't it? The answer is right there all along. Just be your absolute adorable self and guy's will be the one's approaching you. It's never hard to be liked. You must, however, like yourself first. Everything else will just follow.

Lost Love

I think about lost love a lot. The experience of lost love in past relationships is like a learning experience for me from which I try to learn as much as I can, so I never repeat that situation again. Lost love gives insight and understanding. Instead of wallowing in misery, I try to move forward with the new knowledge.

Lost love has happened a few times to me, as I'm sure it has to many people. Each time, it would feel like agony, my grief wearing on me like fire. I would feel like my love was gone forever and I would never find love again. Of course, I was always wrong. I would move forward, sometimes reluctantly, but always finding another love that would be stronger for my past experiences of love that I lost.

To quote from a famous movie, "Life finds a way." What everyone needs to remember concerning lost love is that, like everything else, love has its own lifespan. Whenever I lost love, I had to remember that some lifespans are longer than others, and accepting it helped me move forward with my life. To experience joy again was the result of learning how to make sense of what had happened when I lost love.

Looking back over love that was lost and seeing that the lifespan of each of these events was actually longer than the one gone before it made me realize that with each experience of it, I was able to fine tune and improve the relationships each time, each time making them stronger than the time before. It may not have felt like a positive thing at the time, but I look back now and realize those were times of positive growth.

As with many people, every time I had the experience of lost love, I had the feeling that I would never again feel love, that it was gone forever. And of course, I was always wrong. I would find happiness again and joy. But at the time, happiness and joy would seem impossible to ever have again. I would move on, and eventually understand that each of these experiences made me stronger and taught me much about myself.

It became quite apparent to me that, even though I had lost love once, I would be able to have it again. I was not pre-ordained for loneliness for the rest of eternity, even though it might have felt that way at the time.

I came to realize that, with age and wisdom, relationships became stronger and lasted longer. The lifespan of a relationship grew, and had more power and influence in my life. The experience of love that was lost simply became a stepping stone for growth.

If you have lost love, do not let it bog you down. By understanding that it ultimately translates into positive growth, you will carry forward with strength and willpower, able to anticipate a brighter future with a resurgence of love, either rekindled from the old, stronger and better, or brand new with all the hopes and dreams of young love.